You have to be honest in your online dating profile, but you can always try to look the best: there is nothing wrong with helping a little bit the mother-nature with your appearance. You do not need to lie about your height, weight or age, you just need to work carefully on your profile description, your photos, and your appearance - you need to look as good as your photos on the first date right?
If you feel insecure about your appearance, remember that others feel the same, so you are not alone, even prettiest people usually unhappy with something. In fact I met quite a bit really ugly people who were completely confident with their looks, but yet all beautiful girls I ever met were thinking about their imperfections (too fat, to short, to long nose,,, etc). Forget about your insecurities, remember you are beautiful, and there is somebody who will think that you are the most beautiful person in the world, you just need to meet that someone.
To start create perfect profile. You prepare for a job interview, so prepare your profile same way. When you look for a job, you think, why I want that job, how long I am planning to stay on this job, how this job will help me with my carrier, what are my goals, how can I stand out from other candidates, what are my strong points,, etc,, . Same with online dating profile creation. You need to decide what your goals are: you look for marriage, long term relationships, casual sex, or even travel companion. What perfect age group your potential match should be (do not restrict this too much, I’ve seen people looking for somebody older, and be happily every after with somebody 15 years younger)
Are you planning to have kids in near future, would you consider relocation for a perfect match? What are you strong advantages on the online dating market( yes it is market, just like a job market) so think advertising! Describe your self with a sense of humor (shorter profiles are the best, nobody wants to read pages and pages of information (just like resume should be short and informative). Add picture to your profile. People on online dating usually look through pictures first. Lots of online singles admitted that they didn’t ever read other person’s profile, before sending the first contact, they just click on pretty picture and send email.. hey read profile after initial communication. So picture is important. You want to put recent picture out there. It is pretty stupid to put 10-15 year old picture and do not expect your date to run away as fast as he(she) can after one look at you. If you have extra money, you can work with professional photographer, to snap perfect picture,, or you can do it your self with some effort. Use the mirror, try different poses and expressions. Remember that best pictures are pictures with smile.. try smiling different way. Ask your friends to criticize your pictures, you can have picture party. Invite few good friends serve cheese and wine, or beer and wings whatever you like, relax and snap many pictures. Remember even professional photographers working with super models are shooting thousand of pictures jut to get one perfect.
For the first date, you do not need to look like a model, but it is important to be prepared. Nice neat clothes, that show good features and hide imperfections, clean well groomed hair, light makeup, get some mani-pedi. Ask your friends to help to choose dress and hair style. And do not forget smile and self confidence. Tell yourself: I am beautiful… and you know you are beautiful!
Monday, June 6, 2011
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